Spanking/flogging children is normal trend in Nigeria, despite the advocacy and different preachings against it...
Nigeria and Africa as a whole is in a mess because of this infliction of punishment born out of ignorance and emotional gratification.
Nigeria and Africa as a whole is in a mess because of this infliction of punishment born out of ignorance and emotional gratification.
Today we are talking about 15 proven effects of spanking on children.
1. spanking your child doesn't bring them closer to you instead it pushes them away from you. Such that your children won't feel free with you because of the fear of your cane.
2. Spanking, just like an old technology, is an old and crude way of training up a child.. Just as You cannot get the same effect when you use an old and crude way of making firewood compared to a better way of using a gas cooker.
3. You inflict emotional trauma and psychological disorder on the child; studies have showed that spanking or flogging a child is connected with having psychological issues later in the future e.g anger, fear, emotional pain e.t.c
4. You teach the child that the older one is always right; by beating the child he feels its right for him too to beat his younger ones...
5. He will become rebellious when you cannot beating him anymore; because you taught him that the stronger one is always right.
6. Flogging a child only fulfill your immediate wish and not correct your child. For example you can teach him to be respectful to Iya Bimpe by flogging him for not greeting her in the morning, when he see daddy Bimpe the child may not greet him why? because you only instilled fear in the child at that moment but you have not corrected him not correct him
7. You will damage the child's self esteem.
8. You create a fight or flight instincts which makes them want to fight back or get angry and not feel remorse for what they did.
9. A child never learns when he is afraid; its biologically impossible.. A study by Dr. Bruce Lipton proves that
10. Your children/child will think you don't love him or her even if it may be temporal. I have met children who said they will run away from their parents because they feel they are being maltreated. That children will never feel corrected!! But punished!!!
11. Its a violation of human rights. So you are teaching the child how to assault people when he feel wronged.
12. It can go to a realm of physical abuse like bruises, Marks, e.t.c
13. It can lead to accidents; this has happened so many times in Nigeria.. Such that parents wound their children, break their arms and legs, in the name of correction.
14. You are teaching the child that only violence solves problems
15. Think of this. Will a child ever remember how you just flogged him and say I LOVE MY PARENTS?
Yoruba will say " ori bibe ko ni ogun ori fifo" don't solve temporal issues and cause permanent problems oo.
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